Where the author explains why he will speak of manipulation on his blog, what is the art of manipulation, and what are its applications.
In the field of human relations, handling is the art of influencing others by indirect means, to urge him to adopt a certain behavior. The goal is usually to get something handled.
The term manipulation is strongly negative connotations. It evokes the idea of a loss of freedom for the benefit of an individual that we would do as he pleases. Outside, everyone is very attached to the illusion of free will. The independent spirit is a quality highly valued and thought that someone can decide for us without our knowledge is generating unease.
The art of getting what you want
However, handling the broadest sense is nothing but the art of getting others what you want. Handling techniques are essential in many fields such as diplomacy, management, commerce, seduction, etc.. Wherever there is social interaction, there is manipulation. Even you who read me (yes, you there, behind), when a seller you boast a product when your spouse tries to convince you that the Riviera is better than the UK for the holidays when you said any policy that will reduce taxes and crime if you vote for him [1] … They all employ the techniques of manipulation.
Mostly, these methods are employed unconsciously. There is no need to have traveled hundreds of works of social psychology to learn to lead his fellows. Everyone has an instinctive understanding of how human logic, and it is within the reach of everybody trying to hijack this logic to its advantage, and that from an early age.
I was talking one day with someone who was a professional childminder. During the conversation, she told me a common phenomenon: it happens very often that young children left in the crib biting anger when their parents come to pick them at night, and categorically refuse to leave. She says the purpose of children is to make parents jealous unconsciously trying to blame them for abandonment. I am unfortunately not qualified in child psychology, and not dwell on the ins and outs of this phenomenon, but still he seems to me that this constituted one very good example of manipulation. Moreover, young children are often very good manipulators, as parents learn both their costs.
The advantage of handling
Also, be aware that the manipulation of others is not necessarily a disadvantage. In some cases, the indirect method not work miracles when the frontal method gives disastrous results. For example, if your kids play ball in the house, destroying everything in their path, you can force them to stop threatening a punishment. In this case, they will obey, but feel frustrated, and will have the desire again. However, if you maneuver well and offer an activity more interesting and less destructive, the result is the same (damage control material), but you get what you want without offending sensibilities.
Some manipulation techniques are complex and require knowledge in psychology and a lot of training to be put into practice. Examples are the methods used by supermarkets to increase sales by all means [2]. But some are simple while they can be applied immediately, and give surprising results. Have you ever needed to ask for money to strangers in the street? You’ve probably noticed that the acceptance rate is very low. Well you know something good with employees, you can double or even triple that amount?
Simple techniques and practices
I hear you come, you ask: “But what are handling techniques on a site related to personal development?”. In your place, I was equally intrigued, and you’re absolutely right to raise the issue. Here are some answers:
* It is instructive: Studying the techniques of manipulation is very helpful for understanding human psychology. And understand human psychology can get to know yourself, which I think is vitally important for personal development.
* This is defensive: Learning to recognize manipulation techniques you will deal with the grossest and gain freedom.
* This trainer: Know and use manipulation techniques allow you to progress in the areas mentioned above. Moreover, a good mastery of the art of handling will make you a diplomat, and will be of invaluable assistance in all your negotiations.
* This is useful: Because everybody was found a day without money with a call to urgently move from a booth;)
Although some training is required before acquiring good reflexes, the simplest techniques require only little means. And yet the results are there! A turn of phrase, a word appropriate body contact at the right time, and that’s it. While mastering the art of manipulation will open many doors, and you will be very helpful in life. You will develop your sense of diplomacy, your mental and emotional control, your intuitiveness, your knowledge of psychology, and many other qualities.
On this blog, I will practice techniques for handling everyday easy to implement. Feel free to come back on the site for new items.